If you really hit it off on the phone (for example, did you talk for two hours without even realizing it? Regardless of the success of the first phone call, I still think the first date should come rapidly so don’t wait too long to move from phone conversations to a real meeting. Hint or specifically state that you can only be out until a certain time.
A grown woman (or man if the lady is asking) can decide in a few weeks if she would like to meet you – someone looking for a pen pal should do so somewhere else.Your time is valuable and should be used to communicate with people truly interested in meeting you.By this point you have talked back and forth twice and can measure how well you are getting along.You will be able to judge the situation better as you communicate: sometimes you’ll get a date on your first email, other times you may realize a few weeks of communication would be best.I made this mistake early on and now understand why a few girls, after several emails, would ask direct questions like “Is there anything else you would like me to answer? There are times where you will feel like you are communicating with a “great catch” only to realize what a mistake that was 60 seconds into the first date.
It is important to meet early on so less time is spent talking to the wrong person and more time is spent trying to find the right one. The first date should be planned not long after communication has begun.In contrast, many times the dates ended with coffee or lunch.This approach is a cousin to the having-your-friend-call-you-and-faking-an-emergency act that some people think is so slick.It’s not as if you hoping to “chat” with someone and end it there.You want to talk with them and if things go well meet them.Honestly, I have never felt comfortable talking on the phone for long periods of time (even to close friends) so I prefer to jump straight from the internet communication to meeting.