Two college degrees ago, I approached all club nights with a very specific understanding: The guys were most likely going to go for my light-skinned friend all night.
Maybe they'd grow up and out of colorism, the way I was forced to.
I spent my early childhood years regularly getting called a "grease monkey," "Blacky," and whatever else people could say to try to change your mind about loving your dark skin.
I simply understood colorism to be a social disease that affects of black people and can skew how dark-skinned women are selected in the dating pool.
And yes, that included college Thursdays at whatever downtown Greensboro club I chose to frequent in (what I felt) was the baddest freaking dress in the building. Maybe they would always prefer the "long-haired thick red bone," to quote Lil' Wayne.
At some point you realize that it has nothing to do with that burst of bubbles you feel inside when you step into the mirror and realize, "You know what, this melanin quite poppin'."Maybe not in those words, but you get the point.
Anyway, the guys did grow up like I thought they would.
He struggled to break into the side, making just 18 appearances in four years, and spent loan spells at Rochdale, Morecambe, Lincoln City, Gillingham, Rushden & Diamonds and Bristol Rovers.
He left Peterborough permanently in July 2011 when he switched to Torquay United, and he established himself in the side over the next two years.
He made his debut for Newport in the 3–3 draw versus Accrington Stanley on 12 January.
He scored his first goal for Newport on 25 January 2014 in the 3–1 defeat at Bristol Rovers.
Countering with "but you're so pretty, you can't be" suggests that being attractive and also black American is impossible.