Sometimes that’s the best way to go and I’ll share my thoughts on that in a moment, but sometimes half the issue is how you feel about it and think about it.
Do the other person a favor and at least look at the way you’re acting and handling the situation too.
It’s better to just think about what’s happening and where you’re coming from in all of it. But when they consistently do the same thing and it is something that just doesn’t work for me and I feel like it’s reasonable for me to expect it, I do bring it up.
He says he wants to be with me forever and that he loves me- I mean, could see us being like that but does he really mean it or is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear?He’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me, but sometimes he won’t call or text the whole day.In fact, if you tell a guy what he’s doing that you don’t like and how it makes you feel, that’s one of the best ways to help the guy get where you’re coming from.I would say a good rule is to never assume your guy knows the things he’s “supposed” to know or “should” know without you telling him. Now, I want to make a point here because this is usually the place where jaded women will say, “Of course not! ” To that point, guys know plenty and we really do our best. what made our last girlfriend happy sometimes is to give us clues that are extremely visible-from-space obvious.And no, “clues” to a guy does not include a facial expression, voice tone or some kind of hint. Bottom line: If you show your boyfriend exactly how to make you happy, he will do his best to do it.
To a man, a woman who is thoroughly happy with him is a beautiful woman.But the reason I say it is that it’s something I would have said years ago in an early relationship. The thing is, as I had more relationships –more falling in love and then eventually the break-up, more ups, more downs, more experience — my perspective changed and the way I was in relationships changed too… Sure, people get jaded by breakups, sometimes for a month, sometimes for several months (or longer), but the ups and the downs of relationships are both really good things.My point is that in the moments he’s with you, he probably does mean it.Avoid those words and you’ll have much fewer arguments.🙂 There’s nothing wrong with sharing how you feel with a guy.He won’t get defensive if you put it in these terms.