Every year thousands of airplanes land on Thailand’s airports and they are packed with single men of all ages or men in unhappy relationships or marriages.
When they get asked by people back in their home countries what they like about Thailand and why they are going there for holiday every year the answer usually goes like the beaches are so nice, it’s always warm and Thai people are so friendly.
I know there is so much more to write and discuss about but I think that should be enough for now, I’m curious how you see the whole Thai bar girl topic and look forward to reading your comments on this.
I’d say more than 80 percent of the foreign men coming to Thailand (who are not in healthy relationships) are having sex with a Thai bar girl or any kind of Thai hooker – and out of all these guys not more than 10 percent would admit that to their friends back home.
A lot of foreigners don’t even want to call them “prostitutes” because they think it’s just so different here in Thailand where you can pay for a girl the first time then get her phone number and arrange the second date for free and the only thing you have to pay for is dinner and whatever she randomly picks up at the 7 eleven while you go buy the condoms.
If you have just a couple of Thai girl friends with normal jobs like most expats in Thailand do using Thai Cupid, even uni girls that do no sideline and learn to speak Thai you will easily be able to tell the difference between a good and bad Thai girl not only by how they are speaking but also by how they behave.
One easy, obvious but true thing even beginner students of the Thai language can watch out for is how regularly she uses the polite particle “ka”.
Or maybe you are just lucky enough to find a girl who just started to work in the bar recently.
Well that’s a lot of different thoughts on this hot topic.
Often they think it’s just so much more easy and fun to hang out with the bar girls instead of making some effort to learning Thai and approaching a girl with an ordinary job.
But maybe another reason why a lot of foreigners fall in love with a bar girl too easily and then they don’t get to learn Thai is because the Thai bar girl’s English is generally decent – at least better than the standard office girl’s – and bar girls are too lazy to teach you Thai anyway, often they don’t even want their Farang boyfriend to speak Thai so they can continue gossiping about him with their friends right in front of his face.
Bar girls use it very rarely while Thai girls with a good character do use it in every other sentence – especially when talking to strangers and getting to know new people. You just have to be honest with yourself and don’t believe them too easily that they really like you because it’s their job to make you feel that way so they can get at your money.
It’s important to know that there is only one reason why Thai girls decide to work in the bar: Because they come from very poor families with the majority from the northeastern region of Thailand (Isaan) and so they are working not just to support themselves but basically the whole family. Of course there are always exceptions and you can have a successful long term relationship with a Thai bar girl though you have to be aware that you are most likely supporting her financially all the time because she hasn’t got a CV to apply for a normal job (except if you buy her a Thai restaurant or massage shop here or in your home country – but then it’s also you who makes all the investments and owns the business so she is kind of your employee that way).
There comes the second and most significant part of the Thai bar girl’s income: her price for sex.