Those who have taken to heart even one or two of these principles have told me that it has had a dramatically positive effect on their life, and has helped immensely in the process of controlling their negative sexual habits and impulses.
We believe that love, peace, and joy will flood into our lives and give us our “happily ever after.” Falling in love and being in love is awesome, but if we think a relationship is what will save us from loneliness, low self-esteem, and purposelessness, we’re just wrong.
No matter how good, godly, and healthy a relationship may be, it cannot fully satisfy the deeper spiritual hungers within you.
The statement is clearly well-intended, but like many things within the church the attempt to simplify in order to communicate things clearly has created new problems.
For example, the overly simplistic categories of Christian and non-Christian can be an enormous stumbling block. non-Christians, we can quickly (and mistakenly) substitute “people who go to church” with “Christian” and unintentionally lower our standards to anyone who shows up to church on Sunday.
Over the years, I’ve put together a list of what I consider to be the top relationship advice for dating Christians (or those interested in dating).
The list has emerged through countless conversations and discussions, and offers some great ground-level wisdom on how the call of discipleship should steer our journey through romantic relationships.
All of us go through a stage where we assume we’re a boyfriend or girlfriend away from having it all.
We believe that if we could find our “true love,” all the issues that bring us down will fade into the background.
When Jesus is our first priority, our view of love, sex, and relationships is enhanced and enriched.
But when Jesus is relegated to being our second, third, or fourth priority, our entire view of love, sex, and relationships becomes distorted.
You know it’s unhealthy, and chances are it’s negatively impacting every area of your life, including your relationship with God.