But when he paid the money and logged back on, he was crushed to discover that not a single one of the profiles he’d been shown could be contacted.This was because they were “registered” and not “paying” members.
He said: “I wanted to get back on the dating scene but I felt fragile from the split.
Most people on these dating websites are just looking for a bit of fun, but I find that all a bit seedy.
“My daughters said online dating wasn’t good for me anymore, so I started looking for alternatives.” Aileen then came across Searchmate, a bespoke dating service which featured on the first series of Channel 4's The Undateables.
It claims to offer a “safer and more credible alternative” to dating websites.
They were good-looking women in his local area with similar interests – world travel, theatre and cooking.
He didn’t hesitate to pay the £180 for 12 months’ membership as pretty much everyone he’d seen so far he would have gone on a date with, so there seemed to be a lot of potential for meeting someone special.I didn’t want to put myself through all that.” The man, 54, from the North East, came across Elite Singles and thought it looked like a better bet for meeting someone more serious about finding a long-term partner.He was also impressed with the advertised fact that 18,000 new members were registering with the site every week – giving the impression that he’d be spoilt for choice of potential dates.In total, the site offered the man four suitable profiles “in his area” – none of which met his criteria.One of them lived hundreds of miles away in Ireland and would be unreachable without an expensive ferry or plane journey.He claimed to be a high flier in a major American toy firm, but then managed to convince her to give him £200 for medical treatment, encouraging her to take out credit cards.