Such problems have not been my experience in being married to a 100% awesome Protestant husband.
But there’s a significant outlier to the national trend toward intermarriage.My own part-member family notwithstanding, Mormons are the least likely of any religious group to marry outside the fold, at just 12%.I’ve no desire to change my husband, and he is equally respectful of my choices. * I had misunderstood this stat in the original post and corrected it on 5/10/13. And in case you’re interested, the Pew study is referenced on p. When I was a kid, my mother and I joined a very large "non-denominational" Christian Church, one of the earliest versions of the Mega Churches that exist today. I was in the children's choir, the community was lovely, and we sang from a song book with drawings of long-haired hippies.Here are seven reasons Riley gives for the low rates of interfaith marriages among Mormons.
The first is obvious; a few others make good sense when you stop to think about them; and the last one is surprising but likely all too true.But in my grief I found myself drifting into another liberal Methodist Church, and I found solace there for many years. He grew up without much religious exposure, although his father was a "spiritual seeker," dabbling in everything before returning to the Catholic Church. My husband and his aspirituality cheerfully join me each Christmas Eve at a candlelight service and I drive the car when he wants to photograph freight trains.When we got sober, my husband tried to find a spirituality that he could accept, but today he's quite happily a staunch agnostic or, as he calls himself, "aspiritual." Throughout our twenty-two year relationship, he's viewed most of my spiritual explorations kindly, supporting me as much as he could. He could care less about church and I could care less about trains, but we're partners so we indulge each other without complaint.It’s not just a matter of which church to attend; what about tithing? Riley says that in Mormonism, there is no stigma attached to being in a part-member marriage. (Incidentally, non-Mormon wives are almost twice as likely to convert to Mormonism as non-Mormon husbands.) These numbers are far higher than postmarital conversions in other religions, particularly in Judaism.For example, there is no shaming of interfaith children (like one story in the book of an evangelical Sunday School teacher who told one of her students that Mommy was going to hell because she didn’t come to church–! But instead of creating more interfaith marriages, this persistent, long-term welcome mat actually cuts down on such marriages because . There are several stories in the book of non-Jewish spouses who decided to convert but had to repeatedly bang on the door of the synagogue to be accepted, since conversion is not the norm.Marriage ages for Mormons, while creeping up slightly, are still well below the national average.