Highlights of the article: In short, it’s a buyer’s market in which men are the buyers and women are the commodities.
So, in a church so obviously geared toward men, why are so many of them leaving?
it’s about social skills, learning how to communicate with different people, and figuring out what you want and what you like. Basically, a date in the regular world isn’t a job interview. I ended up with some great male friends from my dating days.
One friend observed that in her experience, such dry spells aren’t “uncommon in LDS circles, but *very* uncommon in secular/regular life [but see below].The understood subtext to all dates adds an extra-weird pressure to LDS dating.Two siblings, practically in elderly status (~30) are single and neither has had a serious boyfriend/girlfriend.A close friend from his youth married a short time ago, his new wife was his first serious relationship in over a decade.He wonders if the lack of a serious significant other outside of an engagement is now relatively common.
I quote him: “I’ve watched my siblings go through this and it’s really awful.From the article: Contrary to popular belief, the majority of Mormon men do not go on missions, which typically entail a mix of community service and proselytizing.Mormon men are being asked to serve missions at precisely the time in their lives—late teens and early twenties—when sociologists say men are most susceptible to dropping out of organized religion.All un-coupled people are constantly being assessed and assessing—it creates a strange highly-charged atmosphere where men and women can’t just organically get to know each other, which is the norm in non-LDS dating.It also increases the isolation of single people, and can exacerbate and further cripple the ability to relate to the opposite sex as anything other than a potential partner.I think his subtext was simply putting flint and steel in the same drawer.