You're exploring the possibility of a relationship with one person.If it doesn't work out, God's love will take care of you far more than the love of any human on earth.
That's because asking someone out involves potential pain. Worst of all, you engage in the most banal and abysmal of non-dates-going to coffee.If the object of your affection becomes aware of your intentions, he or she might not reciprocate, and that's going to hurt. Instead of asking someone out on a date and being bold in their intentions, they turn to the soggy milquetoast alternative to dating: "hanging out."Here's how it works: you like someone but you're afraid to let him or her know. It has the trappings of a date—a cozy ambiance, comforting beverages, atmospheric music—while allowing everyone involved to disavow the actual occurrence of a date.They said that it was exhausting trying to figure out if a guy liked them or not.So let's cover a few differences between dating and hanging out, in hopes of making life easier for these ladies. OK, he's probably not a serial killer, but you get my point. The problem is that many people never make the leap.I don't care if you're the most self-confident, well-adjusted person around; rejection hurts. So instead of asking the person on a date, you go on approximations of dates that allow for plausible deniability of all romantic intentions. Fear of rejection alone has resulted in the proliferation of Starbucks like a French-roasted virus.
It makes the remaining friendship awkward at best, and humiliating at worst. People suffer through this in the hope that the object of their affection will eventually buckle and reveal his or her true feelings. They keep making up excuses to hang out, hedging all their bets and waiting for God to give them a sign.
Have you ever noticed that a lot of people find love when they're not looking very hard for it?
It's usually because they're in the middle of a meaningful journey.
While I was doing research for , the biggest complaint I heard from Christian women was that Christian men weren't assertive enough.
They described men who drove them crazy by calling and hanging around while never asking them out on a real date.
That takes a lot more time and trouble to get what usually turns out to be the same result.