To do that, "talk about yourself in anecdotes," says Gonzaga.Instead of saying that you like to cook (which plenty of people will do), describe in detail what your favorite meal to make is.And according to Spira, it should be sooner rather than later.
"I equate online dating to looking for a job," says Julie Spira, cyber-dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
"You'd want a rock star résumé for your perfect dream job, and you should feel the same way about your online dating profile." And the profile is just where it starts—we have plenty of expert tips, from sending the perfect first e-mail to picking your first date location.
It doesn't have to be provocative (and you most certainly do not have to have a perfect figure!
), but it gives the impression that you have nothing to hide; confidence is always attractive.
If someone is new to a site, his or her profile is often featured in the community and the person becomes inundated with e-mails.
So, assume that your interest hasn't had time to open your message.Take Advantage Dating multiple people at a time is a strange habit to get used to, and can often seem irresponsible, but when it comes to online dating, meeting a variety of new people at once is a smart move. "I know people who go on dates three times a day, every day!It may sound like serial dating, but if you're interested in really connecting with somebody, then there's nothing wrong with going out with several people at a time." Keep in mind, too, that most of the time you're paying for these sites, so getting your money's worth means being efficient about seeing who's out there.4.The lesson: Spend time on your profile, and don't stress too much about your first e-mail! Be Direct When it comes to virtual dating, forget playing "hard to get." If someone you're interested in contacts you, it won't pay off to "casually" wait a few days to reply."If you play games and wait to get back to him, he may have already run off into the sunset with someone else," says Spira."The amount of times that people are approached when they have photos is multitudes more than when they don't," says Gian Gonzaga, Ph D, e Harmony's senior director of research and development and head of e Harmony Labs. Leave behind group shots, which can make it confusing for other people to identify you, advises Spira, and choose a headshot in which you are smiling.