Self-esteem isn’t an essential need like food or water, but it’s a supplement that can either dramatically improve your life, or keep you stunted and unfulfilled.The fact is, you can only let in as much love from the outside as you feel on the inside.I threw him out the next day and never looked back.
Some users speak in code — ‘ziplining’ is code for having an affair — while others boast about being ‘honeymooners’: married less than three years.
Most appear well-dressed, middle-class, polite and friendly, hailing from London (one-fifth), Manchester (4 per cent) and everywhere in between. I don’t know if he cheated on me on the site, but for me it was the final straw.‘My ex-wife was active with five men on a regular basis. The worst part was that in her profile, she completely described me in who she was looking to meet.’Worse than breaking up individual marriages, experts say Ashley Madison and its ilk are doing untold damage to the institution as a whole.
Free to join, new members are asked to provide a user name and blurred photograph (the site will pixelate it for you or you can add a ‘disguise’, such as a mask). The introductory package is £39 for 100 credits or £179 for an ‘affair guarantee’ membership of 1,000 credits.
Five credits buys a message to another member and 30 gets you 30 minutes of live chat.
I still haven’t found a way to explain what his daddy did that was so bad.’Jo Welch, the group’s commercial director, says the number of messages they have had from those whose marriages have broken down due to infidelity websites such as Ashley Madison has soared in recent years.‘Websites like this are disgraceful.
They break up families, causing so much pain and suffering — and we have to deal with the children and wives and husbands whose lives are destroyed at the click of a button.’Despite the extreme ramifications of joining the site, Ashley Madison is astonishingly easy to use.They are signed up to Ashley Madison, a controversial website that promotes and caters for extra-marital affairs.Such is the site’s popularity that 1.2 million married and attached Britons have signed up — so one can only imagine the huge wave of terror felt by them yesterday when a group of hackers threatened to reveal the identities of Ashley Madison’s members.If not for the fact they are, by virtue of being on the site, duplicitous cheats, they would come across as eligible. The site was recommended to her by a previous lover, and the end result for me was divorce. Harry Benson, research director at the Marriage Foundation, says such sites are ‘thoroughly unpleasant and misleading’.Despite the hackers’ threat hanging over the site, yesterday there was no sign of it deterring Britain’s married men from straying. Divorce lawyer Georgina Hamblin, director of leading family law firm Vardags, says not: ‘Whatever you think of the morals of the people who sign up to use sites like Ashley Madison, they do have a right to privacy.If you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never truly believe that someone else can love you and you will constantly be on the lookout for the other shoe to drop, for the guy you care about to leave, thus validating the fact that you are unworthy of love.