So I thought I’d tell you about the experience men have when they’re trying to “date like a grownup.” If you’ve read my e Book, you know that I believe strongly that empathizing with men is absolutely essential to your dating and relationship success.
The definition of empathy is “the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person’s feelings.
(Guys, if you’re reading this…get in touch if you want to share!) Just like we can meet the same types of guy over and over, men can do the same with women.She believes her sexuality is the only way she can attract a man, or she wants this point in her life to be a series of sexual experiences. She posts a provocative picture on her online dating profile, invites him over to her house on the first date, shows too much skin (especially for a woman over 40), and is overly familiar with her affection.The Sexpot offers herself up on the first date and is offended if her date doesn’t partake. Relationship-minded men may also say “yes” even though they may feel somewhat emasculated or turned off by her aggressiveness.The Bitter Gal The Bitter Gal is angry — usually about everything, but especially about men. A guy never has a chance, even he is the nicest guy in the world and really likes her.
(Which usually doesn’t last very long since, no matter how pretty and smart she is, she is no fun to be around.) The truth is that The Bitter Gal has been playing the victim for most (if not all) of her life.She’s looking for her guy to be interesting, keep her laughing, ask her all about herself, and give her butterflies…all on the first date. That man then makes a poor impression (understandably), and the date is chalked up to another “he just wasn’t right for me” experience.The Wow Me Woman is often single for a very, very long time. People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. But I tell them that I help men by helping women dating after 40. ) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.Just like women, the men you’re dating have lived and learned.The Princess The Princess is confident, well put together, and very attractive. She still follows “The Rules” and requires that her man do what she wants, when she wants. She’s a scorekeeper, and she alone decides when he’s given enough to satisfy her…or when he hasn’t and is history.