This article is sponsored by Bride & Prejudice, premiering March 15 at 9/8c on FYI.First of all, nobody said that we were planning on having kids, so please don't assume so.
Please don't make it sound as if we've overcome some incredible obstacles just to be ourselves. Secondly, it insinuates that dating people of your own race is the "normal" thing to do.Every time someone has said this to my partner and I, we can't help but feel an immense amount of pressure. And it disregards the possibility that there might not be an abundance of individuals out there who are the same race as us.They perpetuate the notion that these kids' "unique" ethnic makeup is the primary thing that makes them lovable. Just because some people out there still discriminate against mixed-race couples doesn't mean that our parents did or do.Presuming that they automatically fall into this category is insulting.Sometimes the reactions my partner and I get are just plain annoying; other times, people say some seriously hurtful things that make us feel like we don't belong together.
While most of these comments aren’t intended to be hurtful, they are.
Generally, you say you're proud of someone when they've accomplished something of significance.
Two people of different races dating each other doesn't count as an achievement.
And even if some parents have given one or both members of an interracial couple a hard time, you shouldn't pry.
If they want to tell you about this experience, they will do so on their own time.
After all, it isn't free of certain "othering" ideologies.