I don’t know if online dating will be any different for her.
What is encouraging is that she recognizes that she was fishing in a radioactive pond and has decided to try something different.
A change of venue might do her good, but her making the change is a sign that things are already getting better.
He peaks in high school, securing his positioning as the “popular guy” and breaking many a BFFL friendship while sailing though on a straight-C average.
The poor one then usually weans off via Darwinism and transitions into his predestined path of lowlife and loser (my own BD from high school is now a fat divorced single dad!
And then last weekend, she ran into the first guy I mentioned above.
She said she “was good” this time because she “only messed around” with this guy, instead of having sex with him.
But it was what she said next that inspired this writing: these guys, that they would recognize what they’d lost and regret it. All they want is for someone to play with their junk. They don’t miss her when she’s gone, they don’t regret the way they’ve treated her, and they don’t feel they’ve lost anything, because they’re still able to get from her the one thing they care about: sex. They’re probably bragging to their friends about what she did with them and exchanging high-fives. I started thinking about all of this during a pause in the conversation that was beginning to extend to discomfortable lengths.
She thought that because it hurt her when they used her for sex, that she could hurt them back by doing the same thing. There was nothing I could think of to say, but that wasn’t the only reason conversation lagged.
At some point, he meets that one girl who can play his game, but freaks out at the prospect of a challenge and quickly reverts back to his emotional slacker self.
He graduate and utilizes his “network” to secure a well-paid job in a finance-like sector, after which he f*cks around some more, wasting his bonus on bottles at Tao and summer trips to Ibiza.
Towards his thirties, he gets tired of partying and finds himself a wife who is hot, skinny and smart enough to bring around in public, yet not smart enough to realize the tragedy of settling for a moron.